If you are a rookie in dating, probably around 19 to 25 years of age, who doesn’t seem to have many dating options at hand and would desperately want to have a blissful Valentine’s that leads to intimacy or something special happening, read on.
I have a few tips to get you out on lovers’ day with a new lover at hand. Don’t be alone in this month of love.
If you have zero skills in dating. You’ve never approached a woman or a man. Never kissed a gal before, been to only one date in your life, and got laid last like many years ago, you are in a pretty rough spot.
Now, many people will be alone or left alone unexpectedly, or get ditched at the last minute. You don’t want to be among the rejects. You read this blog, so you’re special. Let me get you ready for valentines with a few tips.
Recognize that you have scarcity, and the first thing you need is volume. Go where there are many single women who are looking for men like a club or even a dating app.
This valentine is landing on a Saturday, so it will be the perfect time to find a date for the evening. You don’t want to be alone on a weekend and on Valentine’s Day at the same time. It looks lame.
Start by going out this weekend and force yourself to say hello to a few women or men and strike up a conversation with them. If you have serious approach anxiety and dread at the thought of talking to a stranger, I would advise you to jump on a dating app and get swapping.
As you swipe and match and text a few gals, try meeting a few of them in real life and have a normal conversation. Open them up by talking about their day, the weather, and what plans they have coming for the new week, and try to score a date. Don’t forget to ask them out. Gals are likely open to going out this month of love.
Don’t propose something BIG like a dinner on Valentine’s, a trip, or a picnic. Not so soon.
Ask the gals you’ve swiped or met in a club or pinged from your old contact list to grab a hot chocolate or a bite on the day before valentines or after valentines and see if they are open.
If they instead choose to go out with you on Valentine’s Day instead of the days you proposed, you might want to say YES to that option.
You are looking for a Valentine’s date without making it obvious. Don’t make it obvious to anybody looking that you are alone and available on a holiday like Valentine’s, but if your date tries to slot themselves on that day, you will consider it.
Above all, remember to take care of your fundamentals, such as good fashion, grooming, speaking confidently, smiling, and coming across as a normal guy with good energy and someone who will be fun for a Valentine’s fling or date.
Now learn how to run a simple date, a few conversation tips, and how to create a fun, memorable experience. There is a lot of good material on the internet from reputable dating instructors on how to run a date.
You have to do something to score that date. There is no miracle cure for a dateless Valentine’s. And the good news is that it is very possible to get a chic or a guy to go out with.
If you are in a city or even a small town, there are plenty of options; you just have to notice them and pick them up. However, you really have to go out.
If you make it a point to talk to at least three or four gals each day and try to ask them out or build a good rapport, you will most likely find a date.
If that doesn’t work, hit the club this week, from Tuesday to Friday, and keep an eye for the gals dressed in flashy clothes, red, and exposing their skin and looking around and looking bored like they need a man to talk to. Please, find within you the courage to say hello and ask them how their night is going, try to move them to the balcony for a cigarette after building a good rapport, and try to close things out.
No gal is going out on a Valentine’s week or weekend just for the sake of it, especially if she is out alone; she is either a hooker or out with friends looking for love.
If the clubs fail, do a dating app, if you can afford the paid options, go for it, it is efficient and will get you hitched real quick. Try Bumble, it is legit for finding quality gals. Learn how to text in a day or two; you don’t have much time. Texting is something you can learn on the spot and start using.
If the dating apps fail you, try your old contacts. Dead numbers that you haven’t texted in months come in handy at such times. Ping a few of those numbers and try to get those gals out on a date this week; one or two might respond.
Above all, don’t come across as needy for a date. At the same time, don’t worry about being weird, creepy, or uncalibrated. You will make a few mistakes, especially if you are a beginner. The gals might cut you some slack if you are an okay guy.
I don’t expect you to get it right on the first try, but you at least make a move. Most men won’t even lift a finger and expect gals to fall magically on their laps. If you just walk up to gal and smile and say hello, you will have an upper hand on the 98 percent of men who can never do that. And who knows, she might be your Valentine’s date or chic for the whole year, or a good friend.
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Happy Valentine’s
