Flirting is not cheating
It is not. It cant be be used as an evidence against you.
Any partner who finds proof of you exchanging steamy chats with someone of the opposite sex and tries to use it against you is just but a witch hunter. Or rather block-headed.
People flirt. A lot. Way more than is necessary. They flirt with everything even pets…awww it is so cute, come here I give you a peck little Chihuahua. They flirt with clothes…wow, that pair of jeans is so sexy, Cynthia try it on I see how it looks on your booty. They flirt with cars…damn that baby is so gorgeous…I would love to take it for a ride.
What I am saying is that flirting or rather thinking out loud that something or someone looks hot is not cheating. People do it to feel good, because people are like that.
I have heard again and again people try to use flirting as a point to prove that someone is cheating.
Oooh, I saw you smiling and talking to that gal or boy and thus you want to go astray.
That is bullshit. Some people are flirty by nature.
I am a flirt by the way.
Flirting is good. It keeps the boring times away.
It is emotional cheating jeff. No it is not.
And what the fuck is emotional cheating. What I am aware of is emotional intelligence which many people who sees flirting as cheating lacks. They don’t understand that flirting is natural. It is inbuilt in us to make us feel good. I know I just sound like a Harvard professor by that analogy right there.
What is cheating then if flirting is not? Well, cheating is very hard to prove. Unless you catch someone cheating, all you can do is guess. Many people have ended relationships thinking their partner is cheating but they aren’t.
I might not be flirting with other people but cheating. People who are cheating would rarely leave evidence in the open like that.
But when you are flirting are you not showing attraction? May be, May be not. But it is definitely not desire as one of the dating coaches I know put it.
More so if it is a gal flirting. Gals flirt way too much than is necessary and if she is winking and showing you her booty it doesn’t always mean she is attracted. I hear that women can barely breathe if they genuinely like you.
If it is a man flirting it is just the norm. It is what men do when they are bored and they want to kill time. Even as I am writing this, I am flirting with you my reader. So people do it all the time; politicians, news anchors, movie stars, they flirt with us a lot.
What if someone is really flirting and also cheating. Well, take it easy. Cheating doesn’t mean he or she doesn’t like you. They might be giving you a small break.
I can even go further and say that someone cheating on you doesn’t necessarily mean that they don’t love you anymore. You can love your man or gal but still cheat.
Cheating is sometimes good for relationships by the way, it keeps people in check. Don’t get too comfortable partner, I might just replace your ass.
Okay, flirt but not on your partner’s watch!
Just like that!