Talking stage simply means you are stuck there in the ‘text buddy’ stage.
What are you talking about with no end goal? If she wants to talk, let her come out on a date.
Women like talking, and they can talk as much as you will listen. If you want to give free attention and time and be a shoulder to lean on, she will use you for her emotional support as long as you allow it.
She is not evil for doing that. You agreed to that.
People only do to you what you allow.
Suppose you allow yourself to be used in any capacity. You will be used.
If you allow your time and resources to be used without getting anything of value back. They will be used.
Talking stage is a new phenomenon that never existed in the dating scene before. Whenever a new term comes up in dating and is not introduced by someone credible, it is probably a time-wasting strategy.
What are you talking about, and how long have you been talking? If you’ve been talking for a month and you are yet to hit that, you are probably deep in the friend zone.
Women have people to talk to and share all their secrets with. Their friends, colleagues, gym buddies etc, are exactly for that.
As a romantic option, you bring something new into their lives. Something exciting and refreshing. And it is not endless chatting and turning into her therapist.
You can chat. Don’t get me wrong. Especially when you just met, you can still be chatting back and forth, trying to set up a meetup, but anything more than 3 weeks of chatting with no progress is a waste of time.
If you are not yet experienced in dating and don’t know what you are doing, I can say you will lose by the 4th week if you are not lovers. You are just winging it at that point.
A woman can be in many talking stages, and the more time you take without acting, the more likely someone else has made a move and gotten the upper hand on you.
So, how do you get out of the talking stage?
That’s the big question, or not so big as such.
If your talking stage involves chatting and video calls with no meet-ups. Try to move fast and set up a meetup.
If by talking stage you mean you have been out with her several times, then just make a move, invite her home for a drink or a cookout, and close the deal. Simple.
Avoid talking with no goal in mind. Only be talking or chatting to set up logistics, not just connecting. There is not much connection you can have over text. You can flirt a bit over text if you are a texting pro, but nothing solid.
You can’t touch her over text, see her, or feel her smell.
If you are good at texting, it shouldn’t take you a few texts back and forth to set up a date. If you are good at dates, it shouldn’t take you two or three dates at most in one month to convert her into your lover.
That’s why I said earlier that if it takes more than one month of talking, and you are in the same city or town, and something is yet to happen. No forward progress, you are not in a good place.
Unless she is very busy and her schedule is tight. You won’t likely make much out of the situation.
There is nothing like a talking stage, unless I got the meaning wrong. If the talking stage means you are still negotiating and sending each other emojis and memes, and endless chats, you are deep in the friend zone, and you don’t even realise it.
If she wanted to meet up with you or do something with you, trust me, she would have done it, that’s assuming you have been attempting to make invitations for dates or drinks, or something one-on-one.
If she is evading your requests for a one-on-one and just chatting, she might be meeting up with other men for something serious. You might not be a good option.
On the other hand, if you are just flirting with her and not making a move, you might be the problem. The ladies tend to be passive, and no matter how much they like a guy, if you don’t make a move, nothing is going to happen.
Move faster to get out of the talking stage. It is tiring engaging in long, endless conversations over chats or calls without closing a deal. A sale needs to be closed.
So when you meet a new woman, do the necessary. Try to get her on a date instantly or the same day later on if she will be free, or the same week, or the next two weeks at worst.
Show sexual intent, not just platonic flirting. Try to escalate things to the next level. And close the deal as fast as she allows you. As long as she is not objecting to your moves, keep moving forward.
There is nowhere written in a female’s DNA that she has to be in the talking stage for two months to become lovers with a man. You are the one slowing things down as a slow moving man.
Recap
As I conclude, it is not bad to talk. I like talking, that’s why I am a blogger. I can talk and talk for hours or even months with someone without doing anything of importance with them. I do it a lot with friends and women I am not planning to date.
I have guys I have been talking to since primary school, high school for decades, etc., because I love talking about nothing. However, I handle things very differently with the people I am dating or planning to date. I move quite fast and avoid letting things go stale.
Strike while the iron is still hot. Drop the dialogue.
Till next time.
