Attraction in men and women works differently. Whereas a bad ass bad boy with leather jackets, dark shades and tats who plays guitar for a semi-famous rock band is attractive to females. The same gal with piercings in her tongue, ears, green dyed hair, and tats might not actually be ideal for most men.
A tall man with great posture, nice grooming, a sense of humour, and reams of confidence is attractive to the ladies. However, the same attributes in a woman might not necessarily be attractive. A tall woman is not something many men actively seek. A petite woman with a great sex appeal would be ideal for most men, both tall and short.
We are not judged on the same metrics when it comes to attraction. I write comedy, and I am thinking of performing stand-up someday. Women like my sense of humour based on the feedback I receive from them, and a few comedians or hilarious guys are pretty decent with women. However, that can’t be said of female comedians. I don’t know any man who is not funny, women or comedians.
A good sense of humour is not something I look for in a woman. Yes, we want women who gets the joke and are smiling and laughing to our jokes, but a comedian as such. It is never the work of a woman to be interesting. That is for the man.
Another major differentiator is muscles. I workout plenty and have met a few gals with abs or toned bodies and even muscular women. They tell me most men rarely fancy that. For many men, as long as a gal is in shape and not overweight, and pleasant to be around, they are good. On the other side, muscles in men can get a big boost if a man has other things like humour, banter, confidence, and strength of frame going on for him.
Anyway, all said and done. I have had women tell me some things about men they find attractive, which also men attractive in women. However, take these with a grain of salt because a woman can say “wow, that guy has great arms or chest or height” but that doesn’t necessarily mean they finds him attractive enough to go to bed with him. It is just a statement they are making.
I once had a chick tell me they can’t date a guy like The Rock because he is too bulky for her. Although I am not sure she can resist the Rock in person.
So here’s a list of physical attributes attractive in both genders. We are a bit superficial today.
A good Bum
Surprisingly, not only men like looking at Bums, but even women have their eyes on nice butts. Glute exercises and pelvic floor exercises are good for both men and women. Sportsmen with better bums score more points for their team, so maybe there is something about bums in both men and women. I have had women tell me how they like a nice bum. At first, they would be shy to say it, but then they would make it like a confession. I am an OG baby; I have been around the block. I am not surprised you like booties.
So, as a guy, don’t be shy about liking women’s nice bums; women also like a man with a big, nice ass. Look at me sounding gay. Trust me, your gal friend wants to spank your ass or grab it. If you date a naughty gal, she will tell you or show you how much she likes ass. I am sure you have seen women grabbing other women’s asses or playing with them. It is because they love it. However, inasmuch as women like asses, don’t let them peg you and shag you with a strap on. I don’t think a real dominant man allows women to insert toys in their buttholes. Don’t be a tight ass, though, she can spank you or grab your ass. So, there you have it. Nothing says a man like a good Butt.
A GOOD HEIGHT
I am contradicting myself a little bit here. However, height in the right way can be both attractive in men and women. A woman above 6 feet tall is a bit too much for most men, but a gal at 5’9 or 5’7 just stands right for many men.
I am sure you’ve had phrases like “she has long, cute legs” or “she is slim and tall with long fingers”. So height in as inasmuch as it is a good attribute in men, can also be great for women. As long as she is just tall and slim, she can be attractive to many men. So a good height goes a long way.
Most men want tall kids, so height in a woman can be a big plus.
A GOOD FACE
Now, this vague, I have seen women with faces I won’t consider good looking, but I found them sexy for other reasons. Maybe they had nice bodies or other things like intelligence going for them. The same thing with men, inasmuch as a man might be a pretty boy, I have had women who are into the rugged manly look. I shared a dating video with my friends where a gal said she likes her men “with a splash of ugly,” so there is something about this imperfectly perfect look on a man’s face or a woman’s face. Sexy strippers have a bit of ugly faces but they still attract men.
So a ‘good face’ which is imperfectly perfect can be both attractive in men and women. I know you expected me to say a pretty face is attractive in both men and women, but no, a man with a gorgeous face or a woman who is an absolute stunner will be attractive. No doubt about that.
However, there is something about rough faces or sexually appealing deformed faces on a charismatic person. My face is not rough, but I wish I had a rough appearance sometimes. My body is rough, though. I have put my body through a lot of punishments…I have a lot of scars that I got as a kid, and many years of working out in ghetto gyms got me an edgy look. You can also cultivate that edgy look like that of an ex-prisoner, with workouts such as convict conditioning.
A NICE SKIN
A man with skin like the back of an oak tree or an ashy appearance is not necessarily the ideal look. Don’t look impoverished or malnourished, thinking it is manly. You might want to take good care of your outward appearance. Moisturise your hands or get good skin care products. We are just done talking about face, it is nice to scrub your face, visit the sauna to detoxify and use sun screen lotion if your skin is light.
Take a shower regularly, if you can get an alternative to using leathered soap, you can consider it because soap is not always good for the skin. It leaves layers on your skin.
We all love a good, clean skin that smells fresh and scented. Find natural cleansers for exfoliating the skin and open your pores for a radiant look.
LONG HAIR
I am sure you’ve noticed that the most talented ladies, men have long well kept hair or clean dreads or a decent haircut. This is because hair is a big part of your attractiveness, whether you are a man or a woman. You can benefit from hiring a good hairstylist who gives you a great look and a styling routine that will work for you. Get yourself some nice shampoo or DAX, or hair food that protects your scalp. I got grey hair way earlier than I should have had due to poor hair care routines. Don’t be me.
MANICURED NAILS
The modern metrosexual man still wins because no woman wants an ashy man with chaffed fingers and a smoker’s nails. It is time to visit the spa and get your nails washed or treated, or manicured for that clean cut look. Get your cuticles removed for a well-kept appearance, and you will be loved. Trust me, women look at your nails secretly. In the same way you check their hands and rub them or compliment their nail appointments, they also give you a look. Why are you comparing fingers and making hand clasps then….
Don’t let her put you down…and don’t put her down too
When she tries to de-sexify you, just ignore her. A gal who tries to make you less sexy by feeding you junk or complaining of how much time you take at the gym or how much you spent on decent clothing or hair is a gal who fears competition. She thinks other women will snatch you up. Women like doing that a lot, especially mothers. They will complain that their son is taking too much time styling his hair.
If you try going out with an unkempt appearance, most gals would be shocked, “you are going out looking like that?”. The same way you don’t allow a gal friend to go out looking like a skunk or a homeless gal is the same way most gals will stop you from walking around looking like a hobo or a slob.
So, give yourself a nice treat to the spa, buy some hair product or develop a good skin care routine that will improve your tieing appearance by 20 percent. You will thank me for those extra points. If you are tying with another guy in every aspect but your appearance looks better, you WIN.
Best,
Slade
