I have been coming across this strange phenomenon that a gal won’t want sex with you as much if she is addicted to Sex toys. Not only have I heard this from socials, but I have also had gals actually tell me themselves that once they have their toys, they do not want men as much.
So, it seems sex toys do a better job than the natural tools for pleasure when it comes to achieving female satisfaction. Satisfaction is a bit complex, and many people get off on weird things, so to say sex toys are better than humans in performance is a BIG claim worth looking into.
On the other hand, I am yet to meet a man who is addicted to self-pleasure and doesn’t enjoy the lady bits anymore.
I had a female friend once tell me she got addicted to sex toys and went on for quite some time, like 2 or 3 years, without being with a man. And when she discovered it was too much for her, she ditched the toys and eventually reset her libido to want men. She literally threw them away. I didn’t bother asking her if she got any withdrawal symptoms.
It seems she just had overreliance and not addiction.
Another gal also told me she liked her toys more than she liked men.
The sentiments might have a shred of truth in them.
I am not sure if using sex toys can be considered ‘masturbation’ because that is something that is ‘addictive’ in some cases.
Sex toys like dildos, lubricants, and vibrators are not entirely a replacement for human-to-human intimacy.
The idea of addiction implies a lack of control.
From a little research I was doing while writing this, whereas it is true that sex toy addiction isn’t something ‘real’. An overreliance on these toys can desensitize your genitals in the long term and may change the way you view intimacy.
That is a cool perspective, that if you can use a vibrator and come intensely in 2 to 5 minutes, you are shortcutting the process of arousal, which involves blood flowing to your genitals and your body getting in the mood and ready for a natural orgasm that takes time.
A rushed orgasm is considered ‘underwhelming’; you are basically spoiling the ‘ritual’ that is intimacy. It is like ticking on a box and moving with your day as opposed to feeling a connection and allowing yourself to be vulnerable and orgasming after 20 or 30 minutes of intimacy with a human.
This is true for both men and women. A man who quickly rubs one out and cums in 5 or 10 minutes still feels a bit empty or shitty after it because it is not real intimacy where touch, acceptance, and sync are involved.
You can’t compare a man who just self pleasured and one who seduced a woman, connected with her, took her somewhere, and they had this magical chemistry. They touched well, kissed, had some foreplay well enough to arouse them, maybe had some oral sex, and then smashed for 45 minutes and cum multiple times.
Those are two totally different experiences.
Dwelling on quickie sessions with vibrators means you are not exploring your body and not learning what type of touch you enjoy. And it might be a sign that one struggles to build desire organically.
A vibrator gives you a 0 to 100 feeling without building much desire and sexual tension needed for real intimacy. So, overreliance on them might skew your expectations and experience of sex with a partner.
How to Use Sex Toys the Right Way
As noted earlier, the toys have a spot in our bedrooms, which is why they exist. You will use lubricants when things get dry. And trust me, you need the dildos sometimes to help partners who are uncomfortable with intimacy open up their sexuality and learn to orgasm.
If your lady has a hard time orgasming, maybe she is inexperienced, or she is still in her shell; a dildo can be used to train her to orgasm and awaken her sexuality. The dildo doesn’t replace you as a man; it is just a means to an end, to teach her how to orgasm and have a bit of control over her sexuality. In this case, it is you, the man who will be using the dildo to train her to orgasm.
Once she has learned to cum, a human dildo can now do the work effectively.
Other toys guys use well are like the lashes, or the ropes, or the whips, if you are into the kinky bondage stuff. At least those are not addictive like the toys.
I am yet to meet a gal who was addicted to bondage that she can’t orgasm with conventional sex.
Pour Conclure
Some addictions are hard to diagnose; sex toy addiction is one of them. You can have an overreliance and indulge too much in something good. Whether you are addicted and there is a treatment for toy addiction is debatable.
Like many sexual preferences, the use of toys is all socialized and can be reversed. I see guys throwing them away or burning their toys when they feel like they are losing it.
As for the men, don’t ever feel like the toys are the enemy, to be fought in sight. They are not, welcome them and make a part of your sex life to spice things up a little bit. Next time your gal is coming over, tell her to bring her cute little playthings.
You will be glad you made them a part of the action.
To more Pleasure!!
