There are a lot of baby mamas nowadays, it is becoming normalcy to have one. And as a young man starting to date you can be tempted to have one also or marry one or date one. Well, we all know or suspect that having a baby mama is not the perfect setup for bringing up a child. It will be great if a kid is brought up in a two-loving parents’ home.
It is better for the psychology of the child. However, that is not the reality sometimes. Life can be full of twists and turns and things will not always be ideal at times.
A woman can have a boyfriend she is pregnant for or has a child with who passes away in an accident. She automatically becomes a single mother without planning for it. She is widowed.
We can empathize with such a unique case. However, in most cases, being a baby mama is a sign of poor decision-making or inability to keep a man. A lady might have picked a man unwilling to commit to her for childbearing and is now stuck. Sometimes a lady didn’t want a man in her life but needed a kid and that’s how she ended up as a baby mama. Either way, being a single mother is not a cakewalk. I am not always in agreement with what my both parents do at times but looking back critically, I am glad they were both present. They came in handy at uncertain times. Back to whether you should have a baby mama;
First of all the downsides of having a baby mama if you don’t have one are known;
She might make the kid not like you despite all the support you are offering or she might be a baby mama from hell who drags you in court and goes on a campaign smear of your name. If you are unlucky or not keen and get a crazy chic pregnant, you will have to deal with a lot of baby mama drama that eats your soul and lifeblood, leaving you a husk of a man. Some of them can be a pain in the ass.
On the other side, if you get a cool one you are lucky and you will have a peaceful co-parenting. I have married friends and a few with baby mamas. The ones with baby mamas tell me it can be tricky managing the emotions and manipulation baby mamas come with but if it gets so bad you should involve a lawyer or just involve a lawyer from the beginning so that you are clear about who is going to be paying for what or whom will visit on which day etc. anyway, just make sure you don’t stick your dick in crazy and knock up a bad gal. Yes, they can be sexy, cunning, and alluring when you are dating them but you don’t want them as baby mamas.
Sometimes you accidentally impregnate a crazy chic, or maybe you carelessly end up getting a crazy chic pregnant. Well, that is your problem. You have been forewarned about getting crazy chics pregnant or not using protection with questionable women. If you go ahead and do it, you will be in dipshit.
That’s all about having a baby mama, let’s look at the pros and cons of dating a baby mama.
Baby mamas are still people who want to date and be in love. However, there are a few things to keep in mind.
The man who got them pregnant and left them or refused to take them in as wives are still the most dominant and macho in their love life. Their baby daddies are so powerful and affect them in ways you can never imagine, it is like those men left a huge imprint in their lives by having a child with them. And that’s true because getting a woman pregnant is the most dominant thing a man can do to her. Forget about what the mainstream media might want you to believe.
This means you will come second in her life or dominance levels. She already has the love of her life who is her kid from another man and she might not hold you in very high esteem as a partner or even as a man because she already has what she might want from a man – a child. Baby mamas tend to be easy to sleep with because they are not vetting a man for a serious position in their life, they already have a kid with another man who is taking care of the child. You can be her toy boy.
Another thing is that the kid might not like you. You are probably not a good influence on the child of a baby mama, the kid knows you are not his or her dad. And every time the mother changes men, the kid might not be learning a good lesson from that. If you want to have a thing with a baby mama, just avoid meeting the kid unless you want to marry her. She can come over to your place instead.
Another thing to note is that she might still be sleeping with the baby daddy. Baby daddies tend to shag their baby mamas once in a while to keep them in check. Most of the time a baby mama is causing chaos because she still has feelings for the baby daddy and doesn’t want to let go of the romance they once shared.
You can thus have a fling with a baby mama but nothing serious brother. Just use a condom with her, the fact that she is a baby mama means she’s good at getting pregnant.
That’s out of the way, now let’s see if you should marry a baby mama.
Only a cuck will do something like this or a man with a baby from a previous relationship can team up with a baby mama and raise kids together. Why would a young man with options to date whomever they want to go for a baby mama? Baby mamas themselves don’t trust men who willingly want to take the father role of kids they don’t sire. They will wonder what is wrong with you, if you are high-value men why will you take such a responsibility willingly? Knowing how men are, most men don’t want to be fathers to kids they didn’t sire. The same way, most women won’t willingly mother kids they didn’t bore unless they don’t have kids of their own. You can marry a single mother if you have the generosity and the patience to provide for another man’s child. Some men do it.
Many men adopt kids and I have also seen men marry women with kids and bring them up till they are functional adults. However, most tough steely-eyed men won’t do it.
Kids are a big deal and before you take a father role, think critically if you are down for that. Paying school fees and bills is not easy unless you are mega successful.
It is said that only unsuccessful men whom other young women don’t want are the ones who will marry a baby mama or even date one. Well, baby mamas are still people and if a baby mama remains sexy and alluring and still has game, she can rope in a young clueless man who doesn’t know what he got. Women are not stupid and even an average woman with less going on for her can snatch a high-value man beyond her status if she plays her cards right.
Recap
The decision is up to you. If you like baby mamas and Milfs, maybe you can have a thing with them. If you prefer a childless woman, avoid baby mamas. Baby mamas themselves know it is hard getting a man and they say it early if they meet a guy. You won’t talk to a baby mama for more than 10 minutes before she tells you she has a kid, and thus if you want to continue the seduction, just know she has a kid. And hope the kid likes you!
Good luck.
Slade.
