Do you I mean side chick reigns?
No she doesn’t.
If she ruled she would be the main chick, the queen. But she doesn’t so she is a side chic.
One of the first articles I wrote on this blog that gave me a bit of notoriety in the blogging space was Side Guy Rules. It’s been six years since then so let me write side chick rules. I have advanced considerably as a writer and a person so I have better perspectives and piercing insights, it is time for a sequel.
So you discover the guy or man you have been flirting with is married or dating and you decide to date him on the low? Sometimes you are not aware of his marital status and you discover this when you are already in a relationship, so deep into it with him and emotionally attached it is too hard to leave. Well, even so, you can still leave if you really want to but I bet if he is spoiling you and taking good care of you emotionally, you shall continue riding that dick right? The majority of city gals will take a side chick role if the man is incredibly good at taking care of their needs.
Women would rather share an alpha male rather than shag a loser.
So let’s get on with the rules. There is a code for your new role.
STAY IN YOUR PLACE OR POSITION
Times might have changed but the rules of the game don’t as much. Just like I mentioned in side guy rules, please don’t start insisting on being introduced in family meetings, business meetings, or anniversaries. You are the mistress, the secret lover, the undercover lover and you shall remain there. You don’t need to be acknowledged unless you are being made official as the second wife. Otherwise, you are in the shadows, you can go on a trip to the coast with the man, steal him away on a weekend once in a while, and brag to your friends about all the spoiling he’s done to you but don’t come close to his family.
If you are to get pregnant by your blesser, please understand that your kid might be an illegitimate son born out of wedlock and society will look at it that way. No one recognizes these sugar baby babies. The man can provide child support but I am not sure the family wants to know of such an offspring especially if the man is very wealthy and the family wants to keep wealth within the family when he dies. We all see what happens in African funerals when a rich man dies, a side chick shows up with a bastard she had with the late rich man only to face resistance and threats from the main family. Be careful before getting pregnant by these married men, sometimes they even distance themselves when their sugar babies become pregnant. And thus you might want to use contraceptives or a condom. You are now aware that you aren’t the only one on his dick. There are STDs out here.
PUT IT DOWN MORE THAN THE MAIN CHICK
Of course, you have to be sexier, alluring, and hotter than the main chick, this is what makes you the side chick, you are a sexpot; your riding skills are exhilarating, your head game is top-notch, you are a throat goat and your throwback is just so surreal. A side chick is probably some young sexy broke chic looking for a sweet life or a strong man to bring fire to her boring life. Sometimes she is working a low-paying job that can only afford her basic needs but she needs more out of life, and some rich chap just happens to offer that. It is just life, do yourself baby!
RESPECT THE MAIN CHICK
If you were to be the main chick, you would have been but you are not. Just the same way a side guy can’t start attacking the main guy and giving him a bad rap so can’t a side chick start hurling insults at a main chick or even contacting her with bullshit. I once heard a song with lewd lyrics on the radio about a mistress telling off a main chic with lyrics such as “When you kiss that man, it is my coochie you are licking”, that’s highly disrespectful. If you want peace and to hold onto that sugar daddy for long, don’t you dare disrespect his wife or main girlfriend. You are the side chick, the vacation, the getaway from his nagging wife or girlfriend, the cool one. And if he ever starts complaining about the main chick, all you can say is “I understand”.
Men are not stupid to destroy their homes or take sides with a sugar baby they picked up on Tinder or in a club. If the main chick tries to call you or send you a bad text, don’t engage her, she is looking for a fight. Don’t give her one. The main chick has been there all the way and provided emotional and moral support to the man when he had nothing. If the husband has not left her for you, there is a reason he is still fucking with her. Men won’t just leave their wives for a mistress, well a few do but that’s just a small number. Don’t try to replace the main chick, she is the head, in fact she is the neck, you are just a shoulder to lean on.
TRY AND GET YOUR OWN MAN
What’s wrong with you anyway? Why can’t you ever get your own man and build with him instead of playing home wrecker? Getting a debonair man is hard for young ladies that’s why I said try. If you can identify a young man with potential to build with, it can be a good bet. However, powerful men or high value men have historically kept mistresses across all societies so I can’t blame you for filling that role if no serious man is offering you something better. Just know where it shall lead to. Will he marry you as a second wife or just make you a baby mama or he will just sponsor your business and lifestyle? It is important to have an end game otherwise you can waste your time with old men and sugar daddies who won’t commit. If you want to get married someday, you better know when to quit and get an oblivious young man and settle down with him. Being a side chick is quite evil but sometimes you just find yourself there, especially with such challenging economic times.
Try being the main once in a while.
Break a leg!
Slade.
