If there’s something I have heard multiple times, it is that you can’t find love in Nairobi or it is hard to find affection. I have heard this from both young and old men who’ve lived in the city. It is considered a dirty sexual marketplace. My father who used to work in Nairobi in the late 80s and early 90s told me that when he was searching for a wife, he didn’t want to marry in Nairobi so he went to the village to look for a woman like my mother. Now I hear the same sentiments from my younger friends. They feel like Nairobi doesn’t have enough marriage-caliber women or it is rather hard to find a unicorn in Nairobi.
Are you the unicorn hunter? Whenever you hear crazy statements like “there is no good man or woman in x Place,” you should take them with a grain of salt. The people saying these things haven’t sampled enough men or women in that city to come to such a baseless conclusion.
Cities are very competitive as mating grounds and if you are to find a unicorn in a city like Nairobi, you have to be really good or you have to search hard to find those hidden gems. I also find it hard to get great women in Nairobi as a young man but I have come across countless of them. I have been in Nairobi for 10 years so I know what it has to offer in terms of women. I can say I have been active in the social scene so I know you can find some nice women to marry.
Love is a different story in this city. Even if you find love, love is not unconditional. You won’t find the unconditional love, the agape love. You will find romantic love which is sort of shaky and can melt away in an instant when a lover is jilted. Okay, maybe you can find love but love is a feeling, and feelings change with time. Love dies down or becomes stronger so just keep that in mind as you seek love in these cold streets of Nairobi or LA or Cape Town or any other city you want to explore for lovers.
I don’t want to discourage you, you can for sure find love if you look in the right places. Your puppy looks at you with a puppy face as you sit on the couch, that’s love. Your friend calls in the morning to check on you, that’s love. First of all, start recognizing the love you have from those around you and then now start seeking love. It is hard for an empty soul to find love. If you are desperately looking for love, people can smell it In you and sell you a false idea. There are love scammers out here. Watch out for them sis.
Where’s the love? Love is you looking in the mirror and smiling at your image. That’s some self-love right there. The self is everything because everything starts with you. When you love yourself enough, you can easily find things and people to love. I love a lot of things in this life first because I was given a lot of love by my parents. And that’s the first bond that is lacking for many people who are looking for love. They were not loved by their parents and it is hard for them to give love and in return find love. You can’t give what you don’t have. I want you to love yourself first. And then start spreading all that love to the world.
Can the pressures of life make you lose your soul and turn your heart cold? Sure, maybe things are a bit difficult at the moment but take heart. Rebuild your self-will and regain a sense of purpose, find something to live for that you can be passionate about and fall in love with. For you to find love, you have to search far and wide, not only in people. If you ask me people are not the best things to love because many people change. I didn’t have love in my heart for long till I started doing things that I love. That’s when I started living and projecting a positive attitude to the world and in the process, I found things and things about people that I loved.
Human nature is complex and rich and if you are looking for something to love about someone you can sure find it. And if you are looking for negative things to hate about people and societies you can find a lot. I live in a third world where a lot of dipshit happens every day, I can concentrate on that or I can find something good about Africa like the weather, the organic food, and the natural women. If I do that, I can be contented despite the downsides. Focus on the positive and you shall indeed find love.
All the best finding love.