We will all die alone. You came to this world alone and you shall leave alone. Your mother was by your side to give you the first warm embrace, some times in unfortunate situations the mother passes away while giving birth and the kid remains with the nurse and the dad. However, we all came alone and will probably go alone. Your spouse will come visit on your deathbed once in a while but I can guarantee you that when you are taking your last breath when your card gets punched, it is most likely a nurse who comes checking around that will find you lifeless or you might die in a doctor’s hand. Or you can pass away in a tragic death way such as an aircraft crash or a car accident or in the sea. Not such good ways to go out.
I don’t like talking about death but it is usually used as a control or manipulation tool by people who want to rope you into bad relationships. Someone threatening you with “you will die alone” or “you won’t have friends” is removing the big guns. “who will bury you?” or “You will die like a dog” is not a reason to stay in a bad relationship. Don’t be scared of being alone or dying alone and start acting desperately in a relationship.
This fear of abandonment and paranoia of being left alone is a major flaw for someone to exhibit. It is not a healthy way to live your life or lead relationships. Don’t try manipulating people with “I will leave you” and also don’t act needy when someone starts withdrawing from you. Stay calm and focused
Relationships are great and good relationships are rewarding. However, a good relationship is not based on fear and emotional manipulation. Either way, these types of manipulation only work on naïve people without much relationship experience. I don’t expect a strong 30-year-old emotionally strong man or woman to fall for such nonsense as you will die alone or you won’t have friends. At 30 you have made the friends you needed to make, and you have dated around enough if you are a socially savvy individual.
People who threaten to abandon you or leave you are individuals who tend to force themselves on people and usually think they need to remind people how important they are to their lives. If someone has to make themselves look important to your life, they know they are not that people to your life or people’s lives. Your place in the world as an individual is quite small unless you are the inventor of electricity a smartphone or sliced bread. Whichever role you play in someone’s life, it can be fulfilled by someone else. You can be replaced successfully.
Some individuals have a huge imprint on people’s lives, either negatively or positively. You see partners who make their lovers tattoo their names on their bodies. That is quite an attachment. I won’t advise you to date such a person who has their ex-lover’s name tattooed on themselves. At least such a person won’t die alone, they have their lover or parent’s name tattooed on them. The rest of us might die alone.
I haven’t seen many kids around their elderly parents or uncles, we tend to push the elderly out of the way. The picture of an old man alone in a rocking chair by the door awaits all men. Let’s embrace our loved ones in old age so that they don’t die alone. It is good to die with your people around you.
Long live my heroes!
